Once that is established, if the children are nothing like you, you must accept deviant behavior because they are adopted and certain inherited characteristics you can't change. You can always play pretend, but eventually, for your own health you must move on.
That's the point that I have reached. I believe that the end came the day I was told that IT WASN'T ABOUT ME. That showed no compassion.
The question remained, how to move on?? Distancing and the use of technology worked very well. Texting is great and so are e-mails. Nonsense discussion work well also. Plus logic!! For example, I could have easily gone to Westhampton during the weekends, but why. Things will no longer be the way they were and I have no desire to repeat the past.
Historians study the past to make the present better. That is what I have done and I believe that by distancing and nonsensical conversations, my life is moving forward.
